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"It Ain’t a Halloween Costume": The Daily Discipline of Winning

"It Ain’t a Halloween Costume": The Daily Discipline of Winning

The winner’s mentality isn’t forged in comfort. It’s forged in the relentless pursuit of excellence, in the refusal to settle, and in the daily decision to prepare.

May 14, 2025

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In today’s fast-paced world of leadership and high performance, it’s easy to become consumed by metrics, quarterly results, and endgame outcomes. But true, lasting success isn’t forged in the final moments—it’s built in the daily habits, the invisible decisions, and the quiet hours when no one is watching.

Few articulate this better than Duke University’s Women’s Basketball Coach, Kara Lawson. While her title says “Head Coach,” her mission goes far beyond wins and losses on the basketball court. She’s a teacher, a mentor, and a transformational leader—educating not only her players but also a global audience that tunes into her social media channels for life lessons rooted in leadership, culture-building, and personal transformation.

Coach Lawson understands something many leaders miss: she isn’t just preparing her team for the next rep, practice, or game—she’s preparing them for the most important game of all... life. She knows her true calling is to help shape people who perform at a high level long after the final buzzer sounds.

In a powerful message recently shared on social media, Coach Lawson warned her team of a silent but deadly threat: losing habits.

“Once you develop losing habits, they’re hard to get out,” she told her team.

“That’s the problem with losing habits—once they infiltrate this circle, they’re hard to kill. So we have to stop them before they become habits. And I’m going to tell you every time I see it, but then it’s incumbent upon you to stop it within yourself. You have to practice and play and behave like a winner. If you want to win games, you have to do that.

It’s not something you just decide to be when you wake up. It ain’t a Halloween costume. You can’t just wake up and put it on. You have to be that every single day in your approach and execution.”

That line hits hard: “It ain’t a Halloween costume.”

Don’t let them get started
— Kara Lawson (@karalawson20)
12:14 PM • May 10, 2025

This isn’t just a message for athletes—it’s a powerful call to action for all of us navigating the complex arenas of leadership and life.

We may not win every game, every deal, every quarter, or every opportunity we pursue. But that’s not the point. What matters is the mentality behind our approach to the craft, the pursuit, and the lives we lead. It’s about showing up with integrity, intention, accountability and an unrelenting commitment to doing the hard and uncomfortable things—consistently.

In a culture of convenience—where the thrill of winning seems deliverable at the tap of a button and validation arrives in likes and clicks—it’s easy to become complacent. But the winner’s mentality isn’t forged in comfort. It’s forged in the relentless pursuit of excellence, in the refusal to settle, and in the daily decision to prepare and perform with greater purpose—regardless of the scoreboard, regardless of who is watching.

Coach Lawson’s words remind us that winning isn’t an outcome—it’s a way of life.

So ask yourself:

What’s my daily standard, even when no one’s watching?
Where might I be developing quiet losing habits—cutting corners, lowering standards, or avoiding the hard conversations?
How can I change the narrative and recommit to a winner’s mentality in those areas?

Each of us was born to win. It’s our birthright. But somewhere along the way, life’s disappointments and failures whisper that we don’t belong—that we’re not capable or worthy. Let’s not internalize that lie.

Remember: A true winner doesn’t just celebrate the victories. They find power even in the losses—because their identity isn’t tied to outcomes; it’s tethered to the process. And that process, practiced daily, leads to a life of impact, fulfillment, inner excellence, and deeper meaning.

Coach Lawson’s challenge is clear: Don’t just try to win—be a winner. Every day. In your mentality, your habits, your actions. Because the truth is, we don’t just coach or lead others—we’re coaching and leading ourselves, too.

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